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This Question came up somewhere else...So I thought I'd post about it....

Did your parents give you the Birds and the Bees talk?

Were your parents Open about sex?

(a lot of the of Board probably had hippy parents...So I'm curious)

My Birds and the Bees talk was ..."Keep it in your pants Mister" It was too late...My mom She had sex? Never she's a good Catholic woman..We don't talk about those things...I appeared Miraculously  ::) My Dad was a cheating He-whore....

I never had a sit down with my parents, but my parents are old.  One of my brothers tried to do it once, but it was really awkward and I was old enough to already know what was going on.

I was raised Catholic and sex just wasn't a topic of conversation for us.  (Which is totally unhealthy, but whatever...)

I was in the same boat as Dave. My parents were old when I was born. They are from another generation, so that type of stuff wasn't discussed.

When I was 5 I asked my dad how mom got pregnant.  He told me everything.  (Yes, everything.)  Mom was pissed as all hell.  (That fact I did not learn until I was a teenager.)

When I was young, my mom sat my brother and I down for the awkward discussion.  About 2 minutes in, my brother and I started laughing uncontrollably and mocking her.  That was the end of that discussion.

My mom was pregnant with my lil sis when I was 7. I got a really scientific explanation then. Otherwise, sex was not really discussed in my house. I was asked if I wanted to go on the pill during high school though. By my Dad. That was awkward. (He was thrilled when I asked him why I needed the pill!)

I got a talk at 8, another at 11 and another at 13. The lines of communication were (and are) always open (My mom is young though, she's was only 18 when she had me)

By the time I got to elementary school, my parents pretty much understood that anything I wanted to know about...I was going to find out about without ever asking. When I was 13, my Dad asked me if there was anything about sex that I wanted to know. I confessed that I had just had sex for the first time a few weeks earlier with a girl in the greenhouse at the local community college, and that it was pretty much as I expected...messy and confusing.

We were taught sex education in elementary school so my parents never had a sit down with me.

I am trying to figure out when I should have this talk with my kids.

I didn't mention this, but like Phish, I had sex education in school, and especially in middle school, I remember it vividly.  It was definitely a good thing.

Sex ed in school here as well.

When I told my dad that I'd just had sex for the first time, the only things he asked me was "in the greenhouse?" and "did everything work ok?" I answered "yes sir" to both and it made for a pretty short conversation.


I've always felt that late afternoons work best for that sort of chat...

You scored a college girl at age 13.  Way to go man. 

Along with Dave and others, I forgot that I did get sex ed in school. I think it was around middle school.

I think in 5th grade we watched a baby chick hatch from an egg.  In 6th grade they started talking about humans. 

Am I the only one that learned the ways from porn!? No talk with mom or sex ed, that I can remember, but the sex scenes in 80s movies were awesome!  ;D

LOL...nah, she was older (15), but not "that" old. Our community college had open swimming pool hours for the local kids during the summer, and she was visiting her grandparents from down in the valley (phoenix). The greenhouse was right behind the pool, so it was a matter of convenience.

'Intro to Sex' - 5th grade
'Hardcore Sex Explained' - 9th grade

Nope, you aint the only one!   ;D

I bloomed really early and natural girl things happened before I had "the talk" which forced my mom to have "the talk" with me.  It was VERY uncomfortable at the time, but she was really open and honest so that was good.  My Dad tried to have the talk with me while watching a sox game and he said "Katie there's birds and bees." and I said "I know Daddy." and he said "good, I'm glad we talked."  That was about it. 

I got the talk in increments, but never the whole sit-down.  Over the course of a few months, I guess, I got the whole story.

I think my mom did the talk early because girlie things were happening early.

Dad? Talk? HA HA HA that'd be the day

Probably the sooner the better. 

The sex education movement began by an English Bishop after he eulogized a girl who had committed suicide. 

We know from her suicide note that the reason she took her own life was she was convinced she was dying from a dreadful disease.  She was in pain and bleeding internally.  The reason she knew she was bleeding in internally is because  for two days blood had been coming out of her vagina.   

The changes a child's body goes thru as they become an adult are pretty scary if you know what is happening.  If you don't know what is happening they can freak out someone particularly girls. 

As a father I'd just like to say that this is not a talk I'm looking forward to having with my child(ren).

Towards the beginning of 5th grade, my wife took a day off of work to spend with my girls.  She had the talk during lunch at a park.  They had lots of questions but she didn't over answer them ... if you know what I mean.  She gave them the basic outline and let them lead from there.  Now they are open to asking more questions in an open environment and we answer them. Some things about cycles and stuff I do have to defer but it has actually has worked out prety well.

^ That is great that you and your wife keep an open line with your girls.  Mr. StL and I hope to do the same.

  My Mom never brought it up, and my Dad tried to bring it up in the car on the way home from school one day.  I don't exactly remember how or what triggered that conversation.  By that time though, I pretty much knew everything I had to know, so it was a pretty short conversation.

That's exactly how I hope to handle things, CF.