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Am I missing the etiquette,something change lately that I don't know about...

- So I sold a window air conditioner on craigslist to a country guy,who frankly kinda scared me....Get's out of his truck says.."Are you B? Hi I'm Bob" threw his hand out there..I went to shake his hand,he grabbed my hand,then started to squeeze it likes crushing walnuts.While crunching my hand,he shook my arm side to side  3-4 times like a swing set losing momentum to a stop position in the middle.Then tightened all the muscles in his arm,l was waiting for him to count to 3,then try to arm wrestle me to the ground.Then says, "Where's the air conditioner?" ,then just lets go...After testing it out,he said he wanted it,loading it up,paying me,"Thank you Very Much,Nice to meet you"...same handshake leaving too..

- This morning,heard on the scanner someone on a bike got hit by a car,pretty much in front of my house.See one of my neighbors standing there,it supposedly happened directly in front of his house,I go approach him to find out what happened..I've never met him...He introduces himself,I reply then I reach my hand out to shake his hand.He swings way out to the side,then swoops to my hand,and proceeds to crush,and twist motion...

- A lot of our clients lately are trying to secret handshake then into a "bro-hug"

My take....
I've done the firm grip,but gentle up down shake,while looking into their eyes...Shake their hand when I meet them,after the meeting,shake their hand.

Important people,I've been working hard on my Presidential,Bill Clinton hand shake.One hand shake,side step,to place the other hand on the forearm,or elbow...I've used it much more the past year or so,with meeting important  people...

So what is your hand shake etiquette,how do you handle your handshakes?

Also how do you handle other peoples handshakes different than your normal etiquette?

Modified to to add, I was talking to nieghbor

There are different handshakes depending on who the other party is.

Business or just meeting someone hand shake- firm with no shaking motion except maybe one up and down.

Established friends- bro shake of varying forms (the multiple grip shake or the shake/hug combo)

I just give strangers a big kiss on the mouth instead of a handshake...I'm all about making first impressions.

I will not shake your hand. Period. I don't know where that thing has been.

I've noticed it too including the bro hug. I purposely just put out may hand and shake it up and down. Nice and firm (no one likes a dead fish) but not too tight. I always thought people were squeezing extra hard because I'm a bigger guy and they are over compensating but maybe there is something more to it. It is quite possible we've missed something.

Professionally and with friends:
- webs of your hands touching, apply equal pressure, little to no up and down motion.  Release immediately.

In a team environment, like with sports:
- grab the hand more casually, reach around to pat the back once or twice.  The more comfortable you are with the person determines how much distance between chests.  Release immediately.


It's weird when people don't let go.

I give a firm but not crushing handshake. 

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^^^ No idea who that is, but I love the neon orange sequined vest...

Lamar from Revenge of the nerds....

I am a hugger.  And I hug like I mean it too.  I have names for my hugs

- the spinning hug

- the jump into my arms and I lean forward and you lean backwards hug

- the python hug

- the "It's been so long since I saw you and I'm overcome" hug

Wow...that's creepy.

Anyway, I judge a man by a handshake.  I can't take someone seriously who can't shake your hand and look you in the eye.  That lack of confidence sets off serious red flags for me.

Never heard that before

I hate the sweaty palm limp wrist handshake.  If you are caressing my hand while you shake my hand, then you never learned how to properly shake hands.

"I'm OK with a handshake, or a good bro-hug, but avoid using the butt-slap as a way of acknowledging another person."

~ Chad Johnson

All of my friends are females, it should be pointed out.  I generally have a rule that if a girl can't greet me by hugging we can't be friends.

As for greeting guys, well I haven't any done outside of pride events, and there hugging is the norm.

I kinda view a handshake as way of telling somebody you don't really want to see them and are just being polite.

Is this a joke?

^^^^

Of course it's not a joke.  Why would I joke?

I can appreciate a good hug, but the statement above about handshake interpretation seems more than a little bit out of touch with reality, imo...

So when you meet someone in a professional capacity or are introduced to someone at a party you hug them?

Oh I was talking about outside of the professional setting.

Of course I handshake in the professional setting.

And at the party, of course not hugging there.

I was talking about if I am meeting somebody with the intention of friends or dating.

Again, I was talking about in the context of friendship or dating.  I usually know how a date is going to go by the hug greeting I get.

^^^ So if you are out with one of your friend-girls, and a guy they know comes up to say hi to them and introduces you...do you hug them, or shake their hand?

handshake in that situation. 

I guess I should have narrowed it down more.  I mean if I meet somebody online.

^^^ Gotta love those online hugs...you can grab a little online ass, and they never slap your online face. ;)

^ agree.

More common than not letting go, in my experience, is when one party doesn't fully synchronize and applies pressure prematurely. Getting your fingers squeezed isn't particularly comfortable and doesn't allow you to return the grip, which results in something akin to the dead fish handshake. Usually, when I experience this, I'll reset and reinitiate the handshake.

The proper protocol for a handshake consists of: stick out your hand (requesting synchronized movement), the other party reciprocating (also requesting synchronized movement) and acknowledging with a firm squeeze, which is in turn acknowledged by you (also with a firm squeeze). You can't synchronize movements without proper eye contact, so that's a given.

^^^ I think you need to break eye contact and look the shake in. The guy who typically creates that premature squeeze is doing so because he isn't coordinating his efforts by using his eyes properly.

Yes, this is bad.  It happens when one party doesn't wait for the web-to-web contact before applying pressure.