Where are the parents of the bad kids?

[Buddhagirl]

Yes. I'm a cold, frigid, old woman. You got me.
Landshark. It's called Google. Use it.

[pondwater]

How many lifetime oaths are even legally permitted by law in this country?

If a person knows upfront that marriage is "until death do us part". Then why would someone even get married if they had any thought that they might get a divorce?

The idea of a commitment that lasts for the rest of your life is kind of silly, when you think about it.  A job that required a lifetime commitment would be insane (not to mention illegal).

So since marriage is a lifetime commitment you think it's silly and/or pointless?

Also, I would think that if you signed a legal contract that spanned your entire lifetime, I don't think that there would be anything illegal about it as long as you were sane, knew and fully understood the terms of the contract, signed willingly, and the terms of the contract were met by the other side.

[pondwater]

I think the term "successful relationship" is a relative one. What I would consider a successful one someone else might not.

You know, you're right and I'm wrong. Certain people could consider a one night stand a successful relationship. Post above edited and fixed. Thanks for pointing out my oversight

[Buddhagirl]

I also want to point out that the "til death do us part" thing is religious. Not everyone includes that in their vows.

[Buddhagirl]

If you are talking about me. Again, I never said anything about "male bashing". I was agreeing with Landshark, that it seems the chick in question has never been in a relationship. At least not a happy, long term, mutually loving one, and probably won't ever be, but I could be wrong. Thanks

But, what if that's NOT what I want in a relationship? Then what?
And, as pointed out I've been in a few relationships. People on this board have seen it with their very own eyes.

[pondwater]

Yes. I'm a cold, frigid, old woman. You got me.

Admitting the problem is the first step. Good job, keep at it.

I also want to point out that the "til death do us part" thing is religious. Not everyone includes that in their vows.

Most people do include that. Therefore, most people that get divorced do include that. Also, I would like to point out that most no fault divorces require that both parties agree and sign to get a divorce or there is no divorce. So maybe one day you'll get married and fall out of love. Maybe your spouse doesn't sign and forces you to honor your commitment. That would be a fitting end.

But, what if that's NOT what I want in a relationship? Then what?
And, as pointed out I've been in a few relationships. People on this board have seen it with their very own eyes.

Most people want a happy and loving relationship. Now I'm curious, if you don't mind me asking. What do you want in a relationship?

[Sunstroke]

I've seen Buddha in a relationship or two, and can say without reservation that she has no problems with being in a relationship...as long as the guy doesn't mind having a woman doing her own thinking.

If a person knows upfront that marriage is "until death do us part". Then why would someone even get married if they had any thought that they might get a divorce?

Your post assumes one of two incorrect premises: One, that either our opinions and emotions never change, or two, that people are naturally psychic and can accurately foresee those emotional changes.

[Buddhagirl]

Most people want a happy and loving relationship. Now I'm curious, if you don't mind me asking. What do you want in a relationship?

Someone that walks the dog before leaving in the morning.

[pondwater]

Someone that walks the dog before leaving in the morning.

Wow, you have high standards. Don't you?

[Buddhagirl]

Wow, you have high standards. Don't you?

Whoosh!

[Dave Gray]

This has gone way off-topic.  I'm going to finish this one up...