Re: Picking up women

[Brian Fein]

^^ Have you tried focusing your efforts perhaps at the gym?  You can pick up lots of stuff there.  As many times as you want.  I'm being totally serious.  You said its fun - maybe you'd enjoy weightlifting.

[pondwater]

^^ Have you tried focusing your efforts perhaps at the gym?  You can pick up lots of stuff there.  As many times as you want.  I'm being totally serious.  You said its fun - maybe you'd enjoy weightlifting.

Not trying to be funny or negative but I don't think he does this because he likes picking things up. It seems like he's trying to pick up some attention from people.

[bsmooth]

You are going to get into trouble. Someone is going to look over and see you physically assaulting his wife or girlfriend, and since you are a random stranger, assume the worse.
It sounds like a desperate cry for attention..."hey everyone look at me, I am so small. yet soo strong."
Take up Olympic lifting. Lot of really small dudes who are really strong.

[Buddhagirl]

Please, please, please stop doing this. You are going to get yourself hurt or in trouble. Like bsmooth said, someone is going to see you doing this to one of their girlfriends/spouse/friend and hurt you. OR, someone is going to press charges on you.

A lot of times women - particularly younger women - will go along with something like this because it's such an odd request it catches them off guard and they're not comfortable setting boundaries. STOP DOING IT!!! It's weird and creepy.

[dolphins4life]

I would like to say that I don't do this because I am desperate for attention.  I have done this even when I have been dating people and getting lots of sex.  In fact, I finally got hooked up again last March.

But I do understand what you guys are saying.

[dolphins4life]

I love weightlifting and this gives me a chance to use that weightlifting for something fun.

[Brian Fein]

just curious - what makes it fun for you?

[bsmooth]

I love weightlifting and this gives me a chance to use that weightlifting for something fun.

I understand that, but you realize that means you are trying to show off your new found strength. There is nothing really wrong with it, I would just try and stick to your friends as much as possible.
I did similar things with my friends and people I knew well. I never did something with a complete stranger.
I have a friend whose nickname is Smurfette. One night at the bar, she asked me how was the weather up there (she is 4'11 and I am 6'2), so I picked her up by her armpits and lifted her above my head so she could see above the crowd. She loved it, and everyone, including her boyfriend, laughed.
Those are the situations I would suggest you look for. I worked security in bars for almost 10 years, and things that are innocent sober, can be misinterpreted easily when alcohol is involved.

[dolphins4life]

I do stick to my friends mostly, but if the opportunity presents itself I'm an equal opportunity picker upper.

I have loved it since I was a volunteer at a youth camp when I was sixteen.  I was showing card tricks to a 10 year old girl, a Russian immigrant who reminded me of myself, so full of life and energy.

She offered to show me one and told me I would easily figured it out, but I could not.

"I'm so happy I have to hug you," she exclaimed.  She ran over to me and grabbed me.  I lifted her over my head.  She was delighted and amazed.  I would do that to her for the rest of the time at camp and she would love it.
 

[Buddhagirl]

I do stick to my friends mostly, but if the opportunity presents itself I'm an equal opportunity picker upper.

I have loved it since I was a volunteer at a youth camp when I was sixteen.  I was showing card tricks to a 10 year old girl, a Russian immigrant who reminded me of myself, so full of life and energy.

She offered to show me one and told me I would easily figured it out, but I could not.

"I'm so happy I have to hug you," she exclaimed.  She ran over to me and grabbed me.  I lifted her over my head.  She was delighted and amazed.  I would do that to her for the rest of the time at camp and she would love it.
 

Sorry, but this whole reply is creepy as fuck. If you see an opportunity to pick up a stranger you do? If some rando picked me up out of the blue he would get maced in the face or stabbed in the eye with a key.


I'm not even touching the 10 year old girl thing.

[Cathal]

^^^ Yeah, it is a little weird.

[Dolphster]

Dude gets creepier and creepier all the time.  He's about two stories away from full blown psycho status. 

[Sunstroke]

I have loved it since I was a volunteer at a youth camp when I was sixteen.  I was showing card tricks to a 10 year old girl, a Russian immigrant who reminded me of myself, so full of life and energy.

As much as I would recommend avoiding the whole picking up of strangers, it goes eleventy billion times more when it comes to children. Picking up adults without their permission can get your ass kicked. Picking up and handling children without their parents' permission can land your ass in jail.

*** Please do not read and dismiss that last point ***

*** I repeat, DO NOT dismiss that last point ***

[MyGodWearsAHoodie]

As much as I would recommend avoiding the whole picking up of strangers, it goes eleventy billion times more when it comes to children. Picking up adults without their permission can get your ass kicked. Picking up and handling children without their parents' permission can land your ass in jail.

*** Please do not read and dismiss that last point ***

*** I repeat, DO NOT dismiss that last point ***

Actually that applies to adults as well.  Lifting a person off the ground without their consent would almost certainly be considered assault and battery by almost any court, a misdemeanor crime. 

[Sunstroke]

^^^ Agreed, but surely you recognize that in the world we live in today, unsolicited contact with children is far more likely to be overreacted upon than contact with adults...