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« Reply #30 on: August 27, 2013, 04:32:26 pm »

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« Reply #31 on: August 27, 2013, 04:39:57 pm »

I just re-read that. I didn't really mean "anything".

I meant just like in the case of you and the Mrs. If all you do is concentrate on her negatives it won't be long before you can't stand to be around her.

The same goes for if you ignore her negatives and concentrate on what you like about her ... even if you aren't feeling it any longer. Sooner or later you will forget what you made such a big deal about to get upset about.
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« Reply #32 on: August 27, 2013, 05:13:33 pm »

So basically fake it til you make it? That sounds awful.
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« Reply #33 on: August 27, 2013, 05:26:07 pm »

So basically fake it til you make it? That sounds awful.

If you truly love the one you're with, you won't have to fake it or faking it will come easy. 
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« Reply #34 on: August 27, 2013, 05:26:27 pm »

I believe in divorce, though I never expect to get there.  I think that it's all fine and good to have these rigid rules for marriage, but ultimately, you're only one half of the equation.  If my wife is off banging dudes, all my loving her and understanding isn't going to make that OK.  Or if I'm beating her, I don't expect her to work to rectify that.  I'm all for working at it if it's what both sides want, but at some point, stick up for yourself and get out.
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« Reply #35 on: August 27, 2013, 05:37:27 pm »

I believe in divorce, though I never expect to get there.  I think that it's all fine and good to have these rigid rules for marriage, but ultimately, you're only one half of the equation.  If my wife is off banging dudes, all my loving her and understanding isn't going to make that OK.  Or if I'm beating her, I don't expect her to work to rectify that.  I'm all for working at it if it's what both sides want, but at some point, stick up for yourself and get out.

I don't disagree with that but that's a pretty small percentage. People go into marriages with the idea they can get out if they need to. In my opinion, those people shouldn't get married.
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« Reply #36 on: August 27, 2013, 06:13:34 pm »

I believe in divorce, though I never expect to get there.  I think that it's all fine and good to have these rigid rules for marriage, but ultimately, you're only one half of the equation.  If my wife is off banging dudes, all my loving her and understanding isn't going to make that OK.  Or if I'm beating her, I don't expect her to work to rectify that.  I'm all for working at it if it's what both sides want, but at some point, stick up for yourself and get out.

There's a difference between divorcing because of domestic violence or unfaithfulness in marriage vs divorcing because your spouse's habits are annoying or you just don't love them anymore.
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« Reply #37 on: August 28, 2013, 10:11:06 am »

So you're ok being in a loveless marriage? I would say not being in love with someone is a pretty good reason to split.
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« Reply #38 on: August 29, 2013, 10:21:50 am »

So you're ok being in a loveless marriage? I would say not being in love with someone is a pretty good reason to split.

If you don't really love the person then you shouldn't get married at all. 
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« Reply #39 on: August 29, 2013, 12:01:53 pm »


^^^ Yes, because "Love" is the simplest and most easily-understood emotion. No one has ever thought they were in love, only to discover later that it was simply lust, or some psychological or emotional need.

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Until humans become robots, or marriage becomes obsolete, there is a need for a divorce process. Believing otherwise seems patently ridiculous to me.

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« Reply #40 on: August 29, 2013, 12:35:38 pm »

If you don't really love the person then you shouldn't get married at all. 

You sound like a 9 year old. I'm wondering if you've ever even been in a relationship.
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« Reply #41 on: August 29, 2013, 01:12:21 pm »

You sound like a 9 year old. I'm wondering if you've ever even been in a relationship.

I've been married for over 25 years.  Seeing all your male bashing posts makes me wonder the same thing about you.
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« Reply #42 on: August 29, 2013, 01:21:45 pm »

I've been married for over 25 years.  Seeing all your male bashing posts makes me wonder the same thing about you.

Except that I'm a real life person and people on this very site have seen with their own eyes guys that I've gone out with. So...there's that.
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« Reply #43 on: August 29, 2013, 02:26:48 pm »

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« Reply #44 on: August 29, 2013, 08:32:08 pm »

Among other reasons, I am certain that divorce is one of the reasons why some kids are bad these days. Not in a "divorce is bad" or "religious" kind of way. But I think that it changes the way that a child is raised. I have noticed that the majority of single mothers raising kids get it wrong most of the time. They spoil the shit out of their kids and basically give them anything they want. There is no discipline or consequences for actions, like they are trying to be friends with their kids before being a parent. Almost like they think that their kid won't love them if they actually do what a parent should do. A parents job is to prepare a child to take care of himself in the real world.

As to the divorce discussion going on. Although I don't agree with divorce, it is a necessary evil. The following post sums up the problem with the way people think.

So you're ok being in a loveless marriage? I would say not being in love with someone is a pretty good reason to split.

If you don't love someone don't marry them, it's really that simple. If you say the words, "til death do us part", you are in fact making a commitment. Aside from abuse or infidelity. If you just find yourself in a "loveless" marriage you should just deal with it. You made the free will decision now deal with the consequences. As an adult, if you make a commitment you should follow through with it. If you can't do that then you might be one of the "bad kids" that this thread is about.

Seeing all your male bashing posts makes me wonder the same thing about you.

Ha ha, I was wondering the same thing. It's all making sense now, that cat is out of the bag.

Except that I'm a real life person and people on this very site have seen with their own eyes guys that I've gone out with. So...there's that.

Landshark, are you a bot? lol
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